Yep, had to disengage big time. H came over in a foul mood complaining about something from our paypal account, asking me why the neighbor is calling him (this is an issue!) and then complaining about how I got the "wrong cat litter" (another issue re: cat peeing on carpet)
I just smiled and said "bye" and walked out. I did not take the bait.
Then as I was driving to rehearsal my car died. H was kind enough to pick me up from the mechanics I was towed to, now I"m in the back room again. Taking care of me. Wanting to go and be with him, not going to do it. I doubt my dimness has much effect since I"m still in the same house but I am just trying to disengage and take care of myself - reading, relaxing, etc.
