Bunny, I applaud your courage in taking this first step in bringing the manipulation and abuse you were subjected to (and which, of course, is totally fine and innocent in H's eyes) to the light of day. Starting with those closest to you is wise. Time to stop hiding it. Hiding something that wrong and that damaging just leads to "hidden secrets" as if there is something wrong with exposing abuse. This leads, as I'm sure you know, to the the growth of inappropriate, invalid toxic shame. Expose H. Shout it from the rooftops. Let him rationalize his abuse to all his family, friends and acquaintances like he did to you. In other words, "questions are being asked"? Let him answer them...and answer to them!
Time for him to be exposed, ostracized, and shunned as the monster he is.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
