Yep. I'm getting a strange vibe so it may be time to back off a biy and just work on the things I need to address. The books just arrived today so I'll start to read them this weekend. So I'm not sure what the negative aspects of LM are but I hope it didn't damage things. I finally have an appointment with the MC for next Friday. It's been an incredibly emotional and exhausting week for both of us which I believe is taking a toll. On top of everything else I've just started a new job. Wow. Thanks for all the input. You can bet I heed your advice.