lf.. How long did this go on for? I realize every situation is different.
we have been together for 20 years. i figured it all started the weekend we first met. we went for a hike near a gorge and i poked her in the butt with a pin as she was peering over the edge. Startled she jumped and i grabbed her by the drawers and pulled them off while saving her from falling to her death on the cliffs below. we have had 2 kids since then but pretty much I doomed the relationship by almost killing her on our first date. no lie. my fault. other than that, I'm not really sure when we grew apart. could have been 5 years ago maybe 10.
our kids can see and hear and think. they figured it out for themselves. one thing we did say to them was, we are not going to compete with each other for your love with money, clothes and gifts; so don't play us. instead they get education, sports and art.
