I guess I look at it this way: X was weak and I try to think of him that way as I work towards forgiveness. However, I would be dishonest and not fair to my own healing if I didn't admit that I do not wish them well.
As far as FIL w/new girlfriend....it seems that there are some real weak people you are dealing with here, with some dependency issues.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D