The more you work on yourself, the stronger and happier you will feel. Shut yourself OUT of your H's drama.. he's a big pushy drama queen right now... let him squirm out there while you work on bettering YOUR LIFE without him in it.
SO YOU will be a more appealing person for him to think about, but FAR MORE IMPORTANT, you will be a more appealing person for yourself to respect.
You need to get yourself happy for your kids, they feed off of whatever energy you feel. What your H puts YOU through, he's putting his KIDS through that too because THEY feel what YOU do.. your husband makes YOU miserable he's making his kids miserable too.
When you know your legal position you can refine your email a bit more and fire that out to him. It's NOT up for debate, he will possibly call you and argue about it.. You need to learn to just hold your position without ARGUING it.
You need to just stand firm and ignore his tantrums, his yelling, his threats, hes abusive hurtful words.. all of it should just bounce right off you.
Think like a mother with kids who want treats and to stay up late... mothers don't ARGUE, they just say NO and hold firm. You can do this with your kids I am sure, but you need to get yourself into a place where you can do this with your H too.
You aren't there yet... but for the sake of your kids you NEED to work on getting there.
This WILL help your marriage too... it will do nothing but help you in the long term.
