It's not me really who's right.. I am just telling you what's in MWD's book.. nothing out of the ordinary there...
Your actions are classic pursuit - it won't work, it actually drives him away.
But my fear is that it feeds his ego and DRAINS YOURS
If you want your husband to PURSUE YOU then YOU need to show him you don't care anymore.
Ever heard of the game "hot and cold?"
MWD doesn't use that descriptive, but its more or less the same thing as her strategy...
You need to shut this guy out completely... if you can keep him away from his kids until he gets his bullying under control that's even better. I don't think you want your kids bullying you when they get older.. and if they see or hear their father doin it, they will learn that and do it too.
