In an earlier post you said something about your husband not being ready for FT yet.
I don't think you are anywhere near ready to reconcile yet. Never mind him, YOU aren't there.
YOU need to work to get yourself to a place where you can say
1. I am ok with a respectable husband coming back 2. I am ok with a drama queen never returning.
Right now I think if he showed up at the door apologizing for everything you would hand him the keys and a free pass right back into the marriage ... at least that's the impression I have when I read your posts. I know you may talk tough with him on the phone... which is GOOD.. I LOVE THAT... But i think you need to work harder at making that a reality. Right now I think you are as addicted to pursuit as he is to his affair.
I made this point on mb28's thread in infidelity. LBS's get addicted to things during infidelity too :
THIS stuff can be VERY ADDICTIVE TOO... I see a lot of this in your posts.. it worries me. And ya, I know that's #5 lol
Get your H out of your home, put away his pictures and his junk, get him out of your head. In my opinion that's the best way to kick his arse into adulthood and for an adult to eventually come back sometime soon.
