My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

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He does seem very nervous when I pull away... I need to work undoing it for longer periods. . . He also gets antsy when I don't respond quickly...

I agree. I think pulling away more would be a good idea. I get the same "are you okay" messages from my wife. I managed to ignore her just one time and when I finally returned her call she was hysterical and in tears. Unfortunately, I never pulled away in a big way - our divorce will be final on Tuesday.