Question though my h usually does a check in with me via text. He'll want to know what I've been doing and with who. How should I answer this?
It does actually feel good to remove myself from his high school drama and be the better person.
I wouldn't answer with anything more specific than 'living my life/working/hobby, etc' or something to that effect. The few times that my H wanted to know what/with whom I was doing I just told him 'none of your business'. He couldn't fight that, having thrown that line in my face numerous times.
When H withdrew from M [and I mean H in general, yours, mine, hers] he gave up any right to accountability. Is H telling you about his time w/OW? That's my point. H unilaterally decided on new rules in the M; he's got to live by them as well.
I think at this point if my H actually tried to check up on me, I wouldn't even respond. But for me, I'm at the point of total withdraw. Unless it can't be avoided, I want NC w/H for a bit.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
