THanks ruined.... You made slot of sense. I need to just work on myself.

Question though my h usually does a check in with me via text. He'll want to know what I've been doing and with who. How should I answer this?

It does actually feel good to remove myself from his high school drama and be the better person.

M 35, husband 35
M 10
Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count
Home 12/2010-present