I'd like to see you to make a list of very specific actions you can take when you start to become defensive to ideas and opinions you do not like.
When you become so defensive you really miss out on all the wonderful support and advice you are being given.
Many of us here have been legally separated or divorced for some time and keep little contact with our ex spouses. Do you think we stick around because we got our rocks off watching people walk through emotional hell? You are reeling. Most people are when their M falls apart. We want you to not reel.
So how about we start over and give this thing another try?
