My WAW was also sexually abused but I don't believe as bad as yours was. This was definitely an issue in our M and 8 years ago she went into therapy to help her heal from it. She believes that she has because she believes that she is "lovable" and that not many sexual abuse victims can say that. I still have strong doubts and the fact that her EA just recently became a PA before our D is final gives me even more pause. The bedroom was the one place that we really connected but very little of it was initiated by her. She always felt obligated because if she didn't then I would go and have an affair. Interesting how that all turned out.
Anyway my thoughts are with you and I do know what you are talking about. I just sent a text to my W yesterday informing her that I am done and have not heard a word from her since. I'm not sure how this is affecting her and I am also worried about her but she wanted to keep me around as a backup and I can not do that for me or my kids. I worry abourt her mental state and whether she mighthave a break down of some sort and I hope if she does that she reaches out to the right people. It tears my heart apart to know that the woman I have grown to love these 25 years is throwing it all away on a whim but I can't control her or her actions.
Best of luck to you!
Me48 WAW46 M24 yrs S24 D21 D19 EA disc 6/09 2nd EA Fall 09 I move out 11/12/09 W and I switch 1/14/10 D Filed 3/17/10 W moves in with OM 6/8/10 D Final 6/21/10
