You don't treat your friends that way. You don't treat a dog that way! Why should we stand to be treated that way? My answer is I'm scared. Not a good power stance which is what we need right now.
My W brought up D during our argument Mon nite when she got home after 1:00 in the morning and couldn't understand why I was upset. She said I didn't trust her and she had done nothing to make me not trust her. She said she considered this marriage over. Why can't we just be civil, get a divorce and remain friends. I told her if that's how she thought things would be if we got D, she had another thing coming. In their mind, they have already won. They think we will back down, give them what they want and be glad to be offered the olive branch of friendship. WRONG!!!! We will be co-parents, PERIOD.
Sorry, I'm saying this to myself as much as I am to you. We have to make up our mind how much we can put up with and is it worth it. If I knew my W would "see the light" for sure sometime in the future, I could hold on for a long, long time. If she sees no concequences to her actions, that's exactly how long I would be holding on. I'm worth more than that.
