You're right. They know they still have us. Only when they finally realize we won't put up with this sh!t any longer will they maybe, maybe start to see the light.
It is scary because there is always the chance that maybe they won't see the light. I'm slowly coming to realize that my wife is already gone. The woman living in our home is not the woman that I married. I have grieved that loss so many times already. It will be different when and if she does leave, but the grieveing process has already started. I hope the worst of it is over.
You will be OK. You have to be! What is the other option? There is NO OTHER OPTION!!!