Passenger so glad you found the MLC website useful.I read it regularly and when you are identifying so many similarities between what is written and your H, you can be certain he is going through some kind of crisis.
I am a believer in MLC having seen my H change so much.That said I wouldnt force my views on anyone else.The key point is getting him through all the stages this time and giving him the space to do so.Until he does, he will continue to behave in the way he does.... forever and a day..not something you would want to cycle through again and again.
You are a strong woman and want your M so you go girl and fight for it but during this time look after you and make sure you can stay strong. The journey for some MLC's can be a long one but at least you perhaps have a reason as to why your H is behaving so appallingly. Read as much as you can on MlC so you can balance it with all the great advice you have been given here.
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Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith