BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL #3

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And to continue musing...I guess I wonder about these aspects of dark.....

Is it healthy to simply eliminate contact with people? And is it a good message to send to our kids.

I think in the case of X's, yes, it is, although after the hot emotions have died down, perhaps a low-contact relationship, the sort of "neighbor over the fence" R makes sense, assuming children are involved. Otherwise I see no reason to have R w/X.

As far as R w/X's family...I would not want to get dragged into their dramas and familial stuff, but I would send a card at Christmas.

I admit, though, that my contact w/X's family has grown increasingly scant. After all, it is not as if I have received a thank you or card in return. I have also encouraged D to call X's family on holidays.