My wife and I were talking about our journey through life this weekend and she remembered the time we were climbing in Denali and made a pact that if one of us would fall into a crevice the other would cut the rope and figure out what to do on their own. She commented on how she never believed I would ever have done that then or anytime during our life. She went on to say, for the past few years where I have seemingly dragged you through hell while trying to find myself, you never gave up living your life the way you wanted to live it, had this happiness when I expected you to be sad or angry, and encouraged me at times to find myself and move on if I wanted. All the while that was what you were doing. I admired you and found you very attractive, she said. I realized I had lost you and that I never really found myself.
Gee, Steve... That's beautifully lived and written. Your W is a lucky, lucky woman. I think she polishes you up, too.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Steve, wow... I have a couple questions for you Steve: Did you live in the same home while all this was going on and how long did it go on? Did you have children, and did they know and how where they told ?
I am assuming you lived together while you were "happy Living" and she was finding herself.. How long did this go on for? I realize every situation is different.
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
lf.. How long did this go on for? I realize every situation is different.
we have been together for 20 years. i figured it all started the weekend we first met. we went for a hike near a gorge and i poked her in the butt with a pin as she was peering over the edge. Startled she jumped and i grabbed her by the drawers and pulled them off while saving her from falling to her death on the cliffs below. we have had 2 kids since then but pretty much I doomed the relationship by almost killing her on our first date. no lie. my fault. other than that, I'm not really sure when we grew apart. could have been 5 years ago maybe 10.
our kids can see and hear and think. they figured it out for themselves. one thing we did say to them was, we are not going to compete with each other for your love with money, clothes and gifts; so don't play us. instead they get education, sports and art.
