It's about time you did this, I'm glad you did, it shows you're not dumb, it shows you won't put up with bull$hit anymore, it shows you value yourself enough to let go of the people that don't value you or the relationship they have with you.
You've worked so hard and tried so hard at your end of this relationship and all that communicated to your H is that he could continue doing his crap routine without having to change, "heck she's working this hard to save this marriage, I might as well continue doing what I'm doing, I like all this attention" and then.... you finally hit that point, the switch finally got flipped, you reached your threshold point and finally realized that this isn't working and it's time to stop working at this and let him be and let him deal with the consequences of his actions.
- you're a strong lady and I'm damn proud to know you!
Gee, Rob. Didn't see you occupying the guest room over there... You hit the nail on the head. Thank you. You have contributed more than you know. HUGS
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Puppy - Thank you. Whatever I choose to do. Sounds nice. Been awhile.
BBJ - We could be boating!
Generosity - Well, I "am" wearing boxing style trunks/shorts and a tank. I think the music is appropriate! Thanks for coming by!
Newmama - I always knew this doubt was there. I didn't have the courage to face it. That's an ugly realization. How FUGLY. Tons stronger now, due to a gradual build since end of December.
Flo - Thank you. Let's hope we're seeing the last of his stupidity... for my boys' sake.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Has LBS lost their mind? Can they see or are they blind? Can they walk at all, Or if they move will they fall? are they alive or dead? Have they balls within their thread? WAS'll just pass them there why should they even care?
LBS was turned to steel in the great infidelity field When they woke up in time to the detriment of WAS-kind
WAS doesn't want them LBS just stares at WAS Planning their vengeance that they will soon unfurl
Now the time is here for LBS to spread fear Vengeance from the Marriage grave Kick the asses they once shaved
Nobody wants WAS LBS just turn their heads Nobody helps them Now they have their revenge
Heavy boots of lead fill the WAS full of dread Running as fast as they can because LBS lives again!
Has LBS lost their mind? Can they see or are they blind? Can they walk at all, Or if they move will they fall? are they alive or dead? Have they balls within their thread? WAS'll just pass them there why should they even care?
LBS was turned to steel in the great infidelity field When they woke up in time to the detriment of WAS-kind
WAS doesn't want them LBS just stares at WAS Planning their vengeance that they will soon unfurl
Now the time is here for LBS to spread fear Vengeance from the Marriage grave Kick the asses they once shaved
Nobody wants WAS LBS just turn their heads Nobody helps them Now they have their revenge
Heavy boots of lead fill the WAS full of dread Running as fast as they can because LBS lives again!
mind, I hope you are charging up his ccard my dear! With the weight you lost you MUST need some new expensive clothes...
I get cheating, I get falling in love with someone else, I dont get lying and living double life. I mean, in my case,I wonder, since H thought he found the love of his life, why did he bother hiding her so carefully, you cant be ashamed of something you feel is special. And if it is not special, then why break up your family and hurt the people that you love and they love you... So much madness, selfishness and stupidity... Still amazed, K
Going along with what Kalni said: (if your H is cheating) Blue Cantrell "Hit 'Em Up Style (Oops!)
While he was skeamin' I was beamin' in the Beamer, just beamin' Can't believe that I caught my man cheatin' So I found another way to make him pay for it all
So I went To Neiman-Marcus on a shopping spree And on the way I grabbed Soley and Mia And as the cash box rang I thought everything away
chorus 1: (Oops) There goes the dreams we used to say (Oops) There goes the time we spent away (Oops) There goes the love I had but you cheated on me And that's for that now (Oops) There goes the house we made a home (Oops) There goes you'll never leave me alone (Oops) For all the lies you told This is what ya owe
Chorus 2: Hey ladies When your men wanna get buck wild Just go back and hit 'em up style Get your hands on his cash And spend it to the last dime For all the hard times Oh When you go, then everything goes From the crib to the ride and the clothes So you better let em know that If he mess up, you gotta hit 'em up
While he was braggin' I was coming down the hill and just draggin' All his pictures and his clothes in the bag and Sold everything else 'til there was just nothin' left
And I paid All the bills about a month too late It's a shame we have to play these games The love we had just fade away, aawwaayyy
(Oops)
There goes the dreams we used to say (Oops) There goes the time we spent away (Oops) There goes the love I had but you cheated on me And that's for that now (Oops) There goes the house we made a home (Oops) There goes you'll never leave me alone (Oops) For all the lies you told This is what you're owed
Hey ladies When your men wanna get buck wild Just go back and hit 'em up style Get your hands on his cash And spend it to the last dime For all the hard times Oh When you go, then everything goes From the crib to the ride and the clothes So you better let em know that If he mess up, you gotta hit 'em up
Hey ladies When your men wanna get buck wild Just go back and hit 'em up style Get your hands on his cash And spend it to the last dime For all the hard times Oh When you go, then everything goes From the crib to the ride and the clothes So you better let em know that If he mess up, you gotta hit 'em up
All of the dreams you sold, Left me out in the cold. What happened to the days when we used to trust each other? And all of the things I sold, Will take you until you get old. To get 'em back without me, 'Cause revenge is better than money you'll see
Hey ladies When your men wanna get buck wild Just go back and hit 'em up style Get your hands on his cash oh yeah
When you go, then everything goes From the crib to the ride and the clothes So you better let em know that If he mess up, you gotta hit 'em up
If he mess up, you gotta hit 'em up
Last edited by newmama; 04/15/1009:05 PM.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Popping in on a shopping pit stop. I second Kalni, some new clothes must be in order after the revelation--definitely on H's CC!
Stay focused and keep running! Oh, on that note, I was bummed to discover I'm only running at 5.7mph. Need to find that extra speed in the next 10 days.
HUGS!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
