I made the assumption based on our past. We were always a very intimate couple so the "Physical touch" was always there. We did EVERYTHING together and I mean EVERYTHING (as mentioned in previous post) so "Quality Time" not an issue. My W told me that my "Acts of service" made no difference to her, but that was back when she was more bitter toward me. My W appreciated but told me she did not like "receiving gifts" that she was "not that type of girl" which I always knew.
For me, when I sat down and thought about it, I am a "Words of Affirmation" person. I like hearing how much she loved me and cared for me. This is also a department I lacked in...Even when I would give such words of affirmation I would say something contradicting in the next sentence.
Things have been going OK today so far. My W did lie to me but it was such a little thing I chose not to even bring it up, it really had no significance so why bother. She said I was acting weird today and she has checked my phone more than once today. She also encouraged me to call her father and invite him to a show on Sat. which her father could not make unfortunately.
I had the opportunity to compliment her as well. She has been wanting to get her teeth whitened for years now but I always told her it would be a waste of money because she already had a great smile. Today she went for a consultation. They told her she had white teeth as it is. When she told me what the Dr. had said I then said in response "She is right, you have beautiful smile."
We'll see how the rest of today goes. It is tough not t apologize to her but I will do my best to tone it down. I use to have such a short fuse toward is all...
I know how you feel. you want to get back to that physical and presense affirmation. Sounds like she is asserting her independance somewhat, but slowly opening up. You did really good considering the circumstances. That physical and presense affirmation is like fuel for the soul. Thanks for the feedback on your sitch and hope you get what you want.
