Well, I saw my h this morning and we have texted back and forth about filing our taxes. I knew he would be difficult about this and I guess I should not be surprised at the odd things that come out of his mouth. Since I went to the tax place to have them done, I had to take the papers to his work to have him sign them. When I got there he complained that he shouldn't have to pay the $12.00 we owed for school taxes since he moved out in November. I kept my mouth shut about how he should have changed that at his workplace and what's the big deal about 2 months out of the year? And, we're talking 12 bucks! I told him I would her know and see what she says. He yelled, "No, I want a correct tax return. Don't ask her, just tell her I want it changed." I said ok, I'll let her know that. The h I knew would never be that demanding or worried about something so small. But, this new guy (Monster) is demanding.
When I took the papers back, I told her what he said. She smiled and I said, look just humor me and tell me what the difference would be. I realize he should have taken care of this himself, but he apparently didn't. She said no problem, she could do it, but then we would have to file separate and he would have to pay his own fee of $100.00 and would have to drive down there to sign new papers. Seemed stupid to me, but I sent him a text to let him know. We waited for about 15 minutes for an answer, and I texted him to tell him I was going to have to decide for him since she could no longer wait. I also told him I would gladly pay the 12 bucks.
Well, that did not go over very well! Then, he was ticked that he should have just done the taxes himself. Our attorneys told us to have them done this year by a tax service so there would not be any reason for either of us to complain. He has done our taxes in the past and I had no problem with him doing it. But, since he filed for divorce I didn't think it was too smart to let him do them for me this year.
I told him that I was going to make copies of everything for him including a copy of the receipt and asked him what time would be good for me to bring those to him. He said, no, just mail them. Well, I was good and said ok. I told him that I made sure to put down our joint checking account number for the refund to go into. He then said he cut his card up and since I had the checks, he doesn't consider us having a joint checking account since there is no "us." I knew he was trying to bait me so I said, well, your name is still on the account so I'm sure the bank would let you get your money out. He then texted back, "just mail me a check". I said, "ok, whatever you want.
Well, that apparently ticked him off because now he is on a texting warpath. He first said, "I'll see you in November", the date for our divorce. I told him I'm sure I would see him before that, although I am doing my best to only contact or see him for business.
Now, he is telling me he just had a living will made up. And he said my name didn't make the list of who can make decisions for him. And, he doesn't even want me to visit him in the hospital. On this one, I am not going to get pulled into his ranting. I said, no problem, I will make sure my attorney gets a copy of that so we can have it included in all of our other documents. I also said, I do think a wife has some legal rights, but I would have to check with my attorney first.
It really amazes me that a h in MLC who says he does not want to see me or talk to me would come up with these "brilliant" reasons to try to tick me off. I told him this was a dumb argument that I was not going to get sucked into and he needed to stop texting me. So, his next text is that he is "out of the home repair business and I will just have to call someone else if I have any problems come up." And that every day just makes him more determined to divorce me. I am not going to respond to that.
I swear he's acting like a toddler. The whole home repair comment almost sounded like "if you don't want to play along, I'm going to take my ball and go home." And, I also think he really wants to talk to me. He does this text war thing every time he sees me. IMO if he really didn't want to have any contact with me, it would've ended today after I told him about mailing him copies of the tax forms.
So, did I do better at trying to detach and not get sucked in to his arguments? It was really hard! He was hitting my buttons and I wanted to vent and scream at him. Although, I do have to admit I am sort of feeling good about myself right now. And, I'm not crying like I usually wind up doing after getting sucked in. Maybe I am doing this after all.
