This topic brought a smile to my face, thanks guys! And FWIW- my S19 gets a lot more girls by playing sexy jazz with his saxophone in a jazz combo than he does with his bass guitar in metal bands.
Just kidding, Spy Bunny. Music makes the world go 'round. It is very theraputic and playing it, even more so. Doesn't matter what you play as long as the enjoyment is there. I am teaching my kids to play guitar. So far, only one shows interest in it and it is something we can do together and share anytime or anywhere.
Yes, musicians get the girls! We need more cowbell!!!!!!!!!
I am so glad you found some happiness today. You can feel this way all the time someday. Every day is a new day. I think you will always appreciate the laughter after you have went through some misery.
To me when I am happy it makes me even more thankful for that moment that I took for granted.
It will be a long ways for most of here, but it seems that happiness may come more than the misery as the days pass and each moment brings us closer to having ourselves back.
Keep laughing!!!
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LSG- thanks. I know the happiness will be greater that the sadness and despair. I only wish I could hurry the process along. As we all do.
THA- wow, did you leave me with a great picture in my mind! You sound like you are doing well at the moment. I know what you mean about memories haunting you. They do me too. I know I was not in a good place for a while and didn't treat my W like she needed and she said it took her a year to say she had enough. While not completely true, I realized my mistakes with time and her actions, hopefully she will too. Patience and no pressure.
You're right: We WILL be okay with or without them!
Met with L yesterday. Don't know how to feel about it. If it comes to D, no matter what, I'm f'd. L said I could expect joint custody, stuff like that. I guess I feel I learned some things, but nothing that really makes me feel better.
I guess it boils down to neither one of us by ourselves can take care of the kids as well as we do together. The money that would be taken out of my check for child support would be more that 40% of my net pay. Doesn't leave me with much leftover to live on. I will take care of my kids, I'm not complaining about that. She has a part time job-how is she going to live? I know she's not thinking about that, she just wants out. When will reality hit her? I'm thinking when it's too late. Hopefully, we are not out of time and can still fix this.
Had a great time playing with the band this weekend. They asked me to come to a practice and work up some songs so we all are on the same page. Don't know if they'll ask me to join, but I guess I was good enough for a second look.
I hope you are doing okay. I know everything is a shock for you, and you feel that you are f'd. There is always hope. Don't give up on hope! I have read some sitches where it seemed hopeless, and somehow it worked out. Keep DBing to the end. There is nothing to lose by trying, and there is everything to lose by not.
Reality hits people at different times and when least expected. Tomorrow is a new day, and you never know what that day will bring to you and your M.
Try not to worry if you can and think you are out of time. Just keep optimistic that you will okay for you and your kids.
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