The secret to a happy ending is knowing when to roll the credits.
Former husbands, wives, friends, lovers, sex buddies ... I don't want you as a friend. I need another enemy. not a happy ending.
A veterans advice, make your last conversation as amicable as possible. Say little and Smile. Then go out and enjoy your life to its fullest. Stop thriving on unhappiness and discouragement, arguments and frustration. It is unhealthy and it is keeping you from reaching your fullest potential.
Smile. What are you walking away from? unhappiness, discouragement, anger, frustration Why would your first step in the other direction be a continuation of those emotions? There is an amazing world out there and it's F'ING GREAT TO BE ALIVE.
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My wife and I were talking about our journey through life this weekend and she remembered the time we were climbing in Denali and made a pact that if one of us would fall into a crevice the other would cut the rope and figure out what to do on their own. She commented on how she never believed I would ever have done that then or anytime during our life. She went on to say, for the past few years where I have seemingly dragged you through hell while trying to find myself, you never gave up living your life the way you wanted to live it, had this happiness when I expected you to be sad or angry, and encouraged me at times to find myself and move on if I wanted. All the while that was what you were doing. I admired you and found you very attractive, she said. I realized I had lost you and that I never really found myself.
She mentioned her friends and how terrible their divorces were. Hatred, drinking, stalking, arguments after arguments still; while you kept saying, sounds great see you next tuesday I got to go, with a smile. And still while I am scared $hitless not knowing what to expect with life now, you have this smile and attitude towards life that is contagious.
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Y'all can do what you want with your lives. I can draw analogies about fish and birds, trains of thought, and even holding onto dead weight as it sinks to the bottom of the ocean, but all in all, whether you are walking away, staying where you are, or sitting on Craggy Dome meditating on lives and pains, be happy. Life is short.
