Pet lovers out there, forgive me, but I am not sentimental about pets. If you are overwhelmed with caring for your S, I think you should consider finding new homes for the cat(s). That sounds really unpleasant to deal with the cat pee issues and you don't need that on top of everything else. It's time to cut out any responsibilities that are non-essential and not nourishing you right now. You don't need the extra housework that pets create if you are struggling with that.
It's hard to say what your H's apparent interest in your health is. Could be care for you but I have to say that it's worth looking at it cynically too. Do you want it to come up in a custody case that you're taking non-prescribed anti-anxiety pills or that you have health or mental problems? You need to keep your cards close to your chest right now.
Your desperate desire to communicate your way through this crisis is constantly getting you into trouble. I totally get that because a lot of my attempts to communicate with H in the past have done more harm than good, and I'm lucky in some ways that he is not sucking me into convos right now. Remember that information is power and you need to keep that power for yourself.
Sorry for the 2x4 Hope. You know I care about you. (((Hope)))
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
