Wow, IDU. That's very interesting- at some point, all of our kids will know who's done what, who has behaved badly and who has behaved with dignity and integrity throughout all of this. I try to keep myself in the 2nd category and remind myself that I don't need to say anything negative about H, even though I might feel like it in the future just out of my own hurt- none of us do (and we all know it's bad for the kids anyway)- IF they behave badly, they will reveal themselves and their character to the kids.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
