Righteous indignation is the way to be. My W accused me of asking my twins if they noticed how much she talked to the super and how much she was at school. I said of course not, I would never bring them into this. Why do you ask? She said one of the twins asked why the super, using his first name as she always does, not Mr. So and so, called her on her cell phone at home and in the car all the time and how come she sat with him at school functions and things like that. I told her it was her fault that he noticed those things and to never blame me for our kids questions about super in the future. I was so mad I couldn’t think straight. I left home and went for a drive.
Later I told her that if our kids had noticed, you can be sure other people have too. Of course, she denied everything and continues to to this day.
We have all made mistakes, but at this point, the WAS knows what they are doing is wrong and we have every right to be mad. Just use it in a constructive way, not for revenge, but for strength and confidence.
