so sad you guys, about the dreams. Seems the only ones I have are bad- H turning his family against me, etc. It's just all so sad for all of us.
FM- I'm glad you got more info from your mom; whether or not you choose to address/delve into it now or leave it for later, it's good to have more info about those early years.
I read somewhere that you were considering CBT. My Tx does that, plus what I guess you'd call traditional talk therapy. I find a mix is good- I'm not sure there are ICs that do only CBT or that you have to choose. You should be able to find someone who appreciates and teaches CBT but also balances it out with other stuff- just listening to you, talking over childhood issues, etc. I don't think you need to limit yourself- they may each have an inclination towards one method, but I think they do some of each most times. It is hard to find someone who meshes with you. I finally found a great person through a personal recommendation and have seen her off and on as needed for years. It is worth the money and time (though that's tough) to find the right person for you.
I also agree with whoever mentioned that this IC could help you with H in terms of outlining and agreeing to what S needs- he would probably receive "guidelines" and "rules" better from her- an "expert" than from you. I do the same thing with my H- if an expert (financial advisor, etc.) can deliver the same message I usually let them b/c it's better received by H than coming from me.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
