You've intrigued me here. Would you elaborate more on your thinking here? I'm interested in hearing what you think about this.
I was trying to suggest that perhaps, but not for sure, if he could see the actual in and out of all money, he might be able to see your full financial picture. I'm guessing only when I suggest that seeing his contribution and discussing it as important while insufficient may do the following: - remind him that he lives a better life thanks to your abilities - remind him that having a free house is saving a lot of money - show him that his income does pay some bills and that it is valued - make him feel safe that you aren't 'hording' away money to leave him or restrict your way of life to control (or whatever fear he may have)
On a different note, reading through your thoughts, I have been impressed by how many things you have attempted - a true overachiever!
I can see why you're baffled somewhat by his stance. As I've read and read, I've noticed that there were many emotional needs I just didn't meet. Not on purpose, but I just didn't do them. The same holds true for my W. Over then next week or two, or months, keep looking for those needs of yours and his. Try to meet them, even in his absence. When you are ready to date, you'll be able to show him that awesome new (but still changing & growing) future for you both.
I can get the fear with dating, but isn't wondering a worse fear? If you ask him for something small and he reects, you at least know where he's at now. Right now, you don't know much. Why not try it?
