My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[TrentC]

I just really think the more I go dark then my b thinks I don't care so why shouldn't he file for d?

OK, so what if he does?

You can't control what he thinks or how he feels. (Are you noticing a pattern here?)

The only thing you can do is tell him that you think the marriage is salvageable, and worth the effort to heal. And work on yourself so if and when he comes out of his fog, he sees what he's on the verge of losing.