I purposely didn't post it. It's not conclusive, but red hot ALERT. I still need more info to confront him,and I'm getting it.
I'll email you or IM you in the alt if you're there later.
Sometimes the plethora of differing opinions makes you question your own decisions (here - like YOU dont know that!), and I've made my decisions, so...
Last edited by mindfull; 04/15/1011:34 AM. Reason: Let's just say, upon viewing, my inital vocal response was... "That Mother Fuc%er!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I asked cause I want to understand your actions now. Because if an affair is a dealbreaker for you, then upon confirming it, things should be prrrety clear, right?
Anyway, supporting you all the way, hoping the best and wondering what this one pulled off and for how long... K
"....You're right. I am ignoring you. You're right. This isn't working. You were more right than I knew TWO years ago. This is NOT working between us anymore. BackOFF, you've had two years to initiate discussion. I need to be alone. Your clothes are in there because that is YOUR room now. I thought I made it clear I wanted some time alone.
It's about time you did this, I'm glad you did, it shows you're not dumb, it shows you won't put up with bull$hit anymore, it shows you value yourself enough to let go of the people that don't value you or the relationship they have with you.
You've worked so hard and tried so hard at your end of this relationship and all that communicated to your H is that he could continue doing his crap routine without having to change, "heck she's working this hard to save this marriage, I might as well continue doing what I'm doing, I like all this attention" and then.... you finally hit that point, the switch finally got flipped, you reached your threshold point and finally realized that this isn't working and it's time to stop working at this and let him be and let him deal with the consequences of his actions.
- you're a strong lady and I'm damn proud to know you!
Originally Posted By: mindfull "....You're right. I am ignoring you. You're right. This isn't working. You were more right than I knew TWO years ago. This is NOT working between us anymore. BackOFF, you've had two years to initiate discussion. I need to be alone. Your clothes are in there because that is YOUR room now. I thought I made it clear I wanted some time alone."
So inspiring to read this^, that Rocky music accompanies it in my mind.
"Just walked w/my closest girlfriend. I'm lucky to have her."
Mindfull,: you have gathered the strength to do what you feel you need- do you think you have more strength now than a year ago or 6 months to deal with this? I hope this isn't a weird question.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Wow, Mindfull. I'm impressed by your courage. I know you have the strength to follow through on your plan. Too bad your H is too stupid to realize what he's throwing away
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
