Thank you all for the comments, and especially so quickly as we were going on that "date" yesterday.
GUESS WHAT? It get's more bizarre....
The date went well, I looked great (if I do say so myself, lol!!), he was extremely nice and attentive, and the dinner and show was great. We talked alot. He said many of the "right" things about caring, healing, new directions, why it happened, what he realizes and wants to change, and so on.
Sounds great, right?
But here's the NEW CATCH!!!
Now that he thinks he's going to loose his job, he wants to give up his apartment in the other city --and move to the house the kids and I live in (and that I had to buy myself when he left us). He says we can live off of the last of the money he has from his half of the old matrimonial home sale. He'll stay home and write books. (WTF?!!). Maybe he'll find a job here, or maybe we'll move again in a few years after teenager is out of high school.
So now the romantic in me says, we have another chance, he's willing to come to my city, the circumstances have given us a new go at this marriage and life.
The cynic in me says, great, he lives off me for 2 years, gets a share of the house I had to buy with the split financials from the separation, then as a stay-at-home Dad if he leaves again I have no claim for support, custody, in fact I'll owe HIM alimony off my puny job, while he goes back and becomes rich in his major career world!!
OR, he says if I don't like the option where he comes home to us (above), then he will have to stay in the other city without us, and find a new good paying job, and will send us support payments and move on with his life (because, as he says, we don't want HIM, just his money).
And of course us going to his city is an option, but one he really doesn't want to do (probalby won't actually agree to) because I'd have to give up my career, teenager doesn't want to move, kids are putting down roots here, housing is tres expensive there, and so on (same rationales as before, some valid, some who cares!).
OK, give it your best, I really really want to hear... NOW WHAT?!!
