A couple more of the odd-tone-emails from STBX yesterday, all quite unbidden and moderately unwelcome, but as per procedure I neither wanted to encourage them by receiving them warmly nor discourage what I think is probably some exercise from her therapist (share your feelings).
The way I look at it, whatever progress there is for STBX in therapy is hers alone to make, but I can at least not chuck a monkey wrench into things by acting like I'm spring-loaded to the A**hole position. So I just noted that I saw and read them, but one needed a somewhat bigger reply.
That one sort of lamented about my hating her and how unfair that is, projecting a lot of negativity onto me (a you this about me & and you that about me sort of thing).
So I briefly replied that no, I don't hate you, I don't anything you, I'm focused on shaping my life to meet my needs and achieve my goals and those of Themselves, and that's just how these things go down -- you have your world, I have mine, let's respect the boundaries, and everyone moves forward.
The response: Clearly you hate me because I want the boundary to include you and you refuse.
Hmmmm -- a rope! Pick it up?
Nahhhhhh. My brief reply: I hear that you perceive this to reflect my hating you. I stated my p.o.v., and you can take me at my word or not as you choose.
