((((((BobbiJo)))))) Guess what? Dan is broken! I guess that wasn't news.....
HUGS!
Nope, it isn't news. But it is still sad, for him and for his kids.
Not my place to judge as I am far from perfect. But my IC and I were talking yesterday about how I do try to learn and grow from experiences and change my life, myself...
In fact we were talking about my mom's attitudes (martyr/victim/passive-aggressive) and that whole family tree of dysfunction and she said she was amazed I was as healthy as I am...
I told her to be honest ten years ago I was a very different person. I mean sure I have always been an upbeat outgoing chica but I had more of my mom's traits. I would pout and do the whole passive/aggressive thing with Dan. If he gave me legitimate criticism I would cry or come back with a reason why whatver it was was not my fault, etc etc. It was to the point where he stopped telling me anything he felt bc I would turn around and make it about me...
For example he may say, I am tired and going to bed, and I would say, "Fine, you don't want to spend time with me, that's ok" and then cry....instead of saying "Well if you are tired you better get some sleep and take care of yourself"...
So anyway I am a lot more self-aware than I used to be (just yesterday my brain called bs on me!) and so it is hard for me to see other people, namely my mom and Dan, staying in the same place when they don't appear to be happy there...
