LOL good girl!! Uh I think sleep texting is about as bad as drunk texting....dont do it!! Hehehe! Seriously, can he not parent without you at all?? Wow, I think I am glad B doesnt take my kids......he cant even dress himself...oh we have a chance of rain here today too!!!!!!
The pattern pretty much is, whenever he has them, if something is hard for him (in this case, I assume getting them up and dressed in time so he isn't late for work) or something is inconvenient (Nathan's allergy shots), he finds a way to twist it into my fault and lashes out at me...
Sadly today reminds me that he has not really grown throughout this situation...
B used to for the longest time, call me for every little thing with the ow and the child (no he still hasnt had a pat test) ok yes she is stupid, but he chose stupid, its thier child, I had to tell him, I wasnt going to help him anymore, unless, he had a question regarding health issues. When I saw him last week, he was wanting a pat on the back, because he taught the little boy to pull his own pants up....seriously? I think the more we grow, the more we see, and sadly, they dont grow really like they think, they are more like stuck in wither......I personally enjoy the growing we are doing into our beautiful flower selves...rain or shine...they just always look like they need rain and sun....and never grow!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
BBJ ~ Stop analyzing it to death. You are bringing "teenage" emotions that you had about sex into your adult life. Do what you want with who you want, just remember our favorite saying:
"It is what it is"
Just make sure you are both on the same page and then no harm, no foul.
Sandy!!!! You are so lucky you are miles away, girl..........
that is the ONLY phrase I have banned!!! I hate that phrase...it is what it is only bc you were too lazy/uninspired/lacking in character to make it any different ya jackass! (At this point my comments are obv NOT directed at you SC)
There was a match profile with that phrase as the headline and I deleted it instantly. Stupid? Maybe, but so what.
My game, my rules.
My brother in Madison taught me that one, and it's a keeper...
Chickie~ I knew we BOTH hate that! That's why I brought it into play! It was exH favorite thing to say!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
I know girl, I know we had said it so I was just teasing you back...I really do hate that phrase though....maybe if I hadn't heard it so many times I would not mind it...
ok.. you have to shut Dan down on the whining to you about the kids. You are going to have to flat out tell him to stop texting you about everything unless it involves blood. You don't need to know.
On the R front, pfft on him. Get out our manual He's just not that into you.... ( because he's a dumba$$) Seriously, he must socially stunted... can say it in a text but can't do anything in person. You don't want to be with someone who is emotionally reserved, shy, whatever... he has issues.
Give 'em the BJ boot! Your to busy, his loss. I am glad you didn't text him. Go read the book again and anytime a dude fits that description Bye-Bye
Get on match, go on more dates, so what if they suck in the beginning... you'll get out and about.... you don't have to kiss them. Just explore the venue.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
((((((BobbiJo)))))) Guess what? Dan is broken! I guess that wasn't news.....
HUGS!
Nope, it isn't news. But it is still sad, for him and for his kids.
Not my place to judge as I am far from perfect. But my IC and I were talking yesterday about how I do try to learn and grow from experiences and change my life, myself...
In fact we were talking about my mom's attitudes (martyr/victim/passive-aggressive) and that whole family tree of dysfunction and she said she was amazed I was as healthy as I am...
I told her to be honest ten years ago I was a very different person. I mean sure I have always been an upbeat outgoing chica but I had more of my mom's traits. I would pout and do the whole passive/aggressive thing with Dan. If he gave me legitimate criticism I would cry or come back with a reason why whatver it was was not my fault, etc etc. It was to the point where he stopped telling me anything he felt bc I would turn around and make it about me...
For example he may say, I am tired and going to bed, and I would say, "Fine, you don't want to spend time with me, that's ok" and then cry....instead of saying "Well if you are tired you better get some sleep and take care of yourself"...
So anyway I am a lot more self-aware than I used to be (just yesterday my brain called bs on me!) and so it is hard for me to see other people, namely my mom and Dan, staying in the same place when they don't appear to be happy there...
so why not ask R about last night?? I mean why not say.."hey, I thought we were going out tonight?"
also..what makes you think that he is only seeing you?? or not talking to other people?..
maybe he has a good excuse for not following through..
maybe you should ask more questions...maybe you should even ASK HIM OUT AND MAKE THE PLANS..
I think his flirty texts may be a "testing the waters" type thing..
then again..He could be gay..
Mike,
The direct approach is the one I was thinking last night. Just say, "Hey what's up? Maybe I had wires crossed but I thought we were going out"...since no time or place was given it was pretty well up in the air but still! I am tired of game-playing and mind reading and all that jazz
As for whether he is seeing or talking to anyone else, I have no idea, I never said he wasn't....
I don't really care at this point if he is because we are so early in the dating process...I am still chatting with other people and if I find someoene BBJ worthy I will not hesitate to go on a date with more than one other guy...
