Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

God loves us all and wants to see us redeemed, I agree with that...

However, Jesus Himself overturned the tables of the money changers in the temple...unconditional love does not mean blindly accepting another person as a part of your life without expecting them to do the work to make amends for the damage they have done...

And no your W did not "Mean" to give you STDs but going outside of your relationship and sleeping with someone else then sleeping with you means, her actions are the direct cause of your STD! And if the other guy does not have it, I am sorry to say but there is probably another guy out there that she got it from, whether before or after you two got together I don't know....but it had to come from SOMEWHERE...

Nobody wants you to just give up but you need to have your eyes wide open to accept your current reality and deal with the way things ARE, not the way you wish they WERE...

It was explained where she got it from. SD8 father has it. he gave it to her on purpose and just never told her. WE are trying to find out if SD8 has it too.

the way things are? they are messed up. It's going to take alot of work to resolve these things.

But I have seen her making an effort. She has admitted what she has done wrong and asked for forgiveness.

She took me out. We sat down and talked. She planned a romantic evening with her H to show she was sorry. She's also done other little things.

She went to court with me on monday and waited for hours while I handled S10 situation.

I still don't totally trust her but I'll have to wait and see how this darkness does and if she continues to try to change. Or are they just surface things.

In ephesians 5 it talks about how a husband should love his wife and vice versa. in 1st corinthians 7 it speaks upon seperation.

We have read these verses together. But she needs to go to counseling and to the doctor. These are steps I want to see her taking to try to improve as well.

I have set boundaries and goals. She is doing some of them we will have to see.

But the bible teaches me to love no matter what. God knows everything we are going to do even before we do it and he forgives. There are consequences when we do sin (reaping and sowing) but it does not stop his love no matter what the sin is. No sin is greater than any other.

I also have had to show changes too. This was not one sided and alot of things I was supposed to do as a christian father and husband I had stopped doing. I believe that is also why this has happened. I have asked God for forgiveness and my WAW but there are still consequences for being disobedient