Clinging, I think the fact that you open your post with "I'm thinking of doing something stupid" probably answers your question. But, if you believe that taking that last shot will help you let go then what is the harm? Now, if a rejection will be devastating and impede your ability to make good decisions regarding the terms you are negotiating then don't do it. You're the man, you've gotta live with your choices here, none of us have to live what we advise you to do. Also, it is important to realize that a piece of paper does not "end" anything. You can still DB while separated, divorced or any other situation. You have kids together and therefore will normally be in contact. You can still work at developing a new more healthy R. I know my R with my STBX is a lot heathier now that we're apart but I'm not looking to reconcile. Only you will know when it's time to pack it in and move on to finding other other R's. So, those are my thoughts on the subject for this fine sunny spring morning.
