The several weird things: he is arguing that as my mom gave "us" $400.00 to buy the futon (first piece of furniture for the new house), that should be a split (money-wise) between us.
Ummmm....did his mom give us the set of dishes with clear instructions that they were for X ONLY!? Aver not to ever use them? Same for the microwave from his dad. Etc.
I might just point out this weird little incongruity, but other than that...sh**, just take what you want. Go away.
He is soooo angry about me moving his stuff. Had the gall to write: "where is your honor? I have spoken well of you to our friends to a fault--you are forcing me to tell our friends that you pushed me away-"
The only good thing with that is he is showing the cracks and the strain. Some actual emotion.
I--after much debate, and knowing you guys would say DON'T DO IT!--wrote a note saying "our friends know my faults. I told them I was X, Y, Z. I did not portray myself as the innocent blameless victim. I let them know you had reason to be unhappy."
Why? I have to unburden my soul. I am not Catholic, but boy, am I understanding the need to admit fault, to ask forgiveness, to be forgiven.
We are not in any mode of DB'ing, so any groveling or sadness or whatever I convey are for ME. Part of this sucky process of dealing with my feelings.
After his super-angry email, he did write a fairly neutral note asking if it would be OK to come get his stuff this weekend, as I had said I would be working all weekend (which is why I had to move his stuff so abruptly).
Of course I said fine, thank you so much for letting me know, and I won't be around.
Thanks all for chiming in. Feeling a bit lonely over here.
I'll keep posting and trying to keep up on your threads!
