what I didn't mention above (it was plenty long enough already, I guess!) is that after the concert, I watched xH and gf walking away and he took her hand--gently, tenderly. And I felt...nothing. it's not really an image that has stayed with me either, except that I recognized my lack of emotion about it. I think I tend to see the whole thing in terms of neurochemistry--brain chemicals. I've watched the past 2 years from the perspective of brain chemistry--seen his flood and peak and die away, only to resurge with another OW. guess I'm already beginning to think like a research nurse!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
no, I'm not kidding! You are one of the Wise Women of the boards! I'm sorry if I forgot you had posted before--I've been on here a long time now (or so it seems!)....and often with long lulls between posts. oh, and not to mention the roller coaster ride of the past 2 years! I think I've lost some brain cells in the process....
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
xH called me last evening. apologized for asking, then said--"you haven't contacted <wicca princess> have you?"
"of course not. I would have no reason to do that."
"well, she's pissed. called me a liar and she's just getting ugly. I don't think she's ever been dumped before. I had to tell her not to call me again."
it was all I could do not to laugh as he was telling me this!!! he's apparently entitled to not be bothered with the women he leaves in his wake as he takes up with new ones. and, ummm--yeah, I imagine he did tell a fib or two, since he's been with the new one for a couple of months and just jettisoned this one last week!!
and while I may have written a few choice phrases to wicca woman in my head, I would not have bothered to send them! this is going to be interesting.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Karma is a b*tch and then some. Well, this is OW's road and she must walk it and learn from it, or at least, this is what she would've said to you, not so?! Now she knows that your X is a narcissist and that gentle handholding is just a manipulation --- as long as he is getting what he wants from the relationship, he will play the game. And when he's not getting what he wants, he will just move on without a second thought. In my humble opinion.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
well, the wicca woman OW/gf now knows he's a narcissist (well, I have a hunch that she is too!) but the new gf has not figured it out yet. she's a therapist--she ought to catch on fairly quickly, I would think. All that matters to me right now is that D14 is happy and at peace. I will hold the attitude that these relationships are temporary--because I feel awful that she will likely get attached and then feel abandoned when it's over.
but aside from that, it's none of my business. still, watching some karma in action is kinda rewarding.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
