what I didn't mention above (it was plenty long enough already, I guess!) is that after the concert, I watched xH and gf walking away and he took her hand--gently, tenderly. And I felt...nothing. it's not really an image that has stayed with me either, except that I recognized my lack of emotion about it. I think I tend to see the whole thing in terms of neurochemistry--brain chemicals. I've watched the past 2 years from the perspective of brain chemistry--seen his flood and peak and die away, only to resurge with another OW. guess I'm already beginning to think like a research nurse!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
