Thanks Grit This has been a rough rough day. My H continued with threatening emails all day. Followed by contradicting emails saying that he wants to make things easy. He threatened to stay at the house until the D was final and then saying lets be rational..and talk things thru on Saturday.
My MIL called me this afternoon and asked if we could get together for dinner. I love my in laws so much. She came over for pizza and we talked for a couple of hours. She wants me to leave her son. She wants better for me. She says she is so worried about me and wants me to be happy..and she won't be happy until I am happy. It breaks my heart to break these ties with them.
My friend came over a little bit later. We had some wine and talked about what happened during the day. Around 9 o'clock...my H started calling...and calling. I didn't answer the phone. I had enough of his sh*t during the day. About 15 minutes later he shows up at the house. He is seething with anger..says he wants to talk. I told him that I had company and I would talk to him later. He proceeded to go around the house looking for things to take. I asked him to leave...I then told him to leave. He didn't care what I had to say. My friend's H is a police officer..she was texting him throughout this whole ordeal. He told her to call the cops..she was not comfortable with my H. I told her that I didn't want to.
He finally left...he made a fool out of himself. He called 2x afterwards trying to make up for his behavior. It is all so draining.
My SIL called me after my friend left. She told me to leave her brother. She just got off the phone with him..he was being nasty and irrational. We cried together. We just don't know who he is. She advised me to get an attorney and take him for all he is worth and never speak to him again. I am so fortunate that I have such supportive in laws. We are all so heartbroken over this.
I think tomorrow is the day that I break all ties with my H. This R is not healthy. Apparently I have lost too much weight and I have everyone concerned. The emotional abuse is just too much to take. I am debating whether to call the attorney and just file...or just sit here and not do anything.
I am just so hurt and confused. My H cannot even make the D easy on me!!!!! Grit- I don't act like a victim..I don't want to be a victim...but everyone else feels like I am the victim and wants me to get out... Including his own family. I am starting to feel like a victim. What do I do? D is painful..but so is having him in my life. This sucks.
