My wife wants to continue to be friends and even went so far as to think we might continue to live together post divorce. My response was "I want to be your husband not your friend."
Do you understand how silly that sounds? I WILL be your husband,but I will NOT be your friend if you won't be my wife. It SCREAMS of "give me my way, give me my way, I don't want your way,give me my way"
Give her HER way.. No biggie.. "sure we can be friends"
THEN you ignore them. You let THEM come to you. That is all there is to it.. You let them THINK you are friends and then you just do you own thing. Do you contact and pursue activities with every friend you have? Of course not. Do you tell one of them "well since you didn't ask me to go golfing the other day, then I will be your golf partner but I won't be your friend"
Do you see how silly that sounds to THE OTHER PERSON?
It does NOT work to reconcile.
Your answer to her should be..
"Yea we can be friends, but I WANT to live by myself. I may meet somebody and I don't want them to think I am living with a woman.. (you tell her this toungue in cheek and then drop the subject)
