W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Today's Events:

This morning, as I have in the past month or so, I picked my W from the lot where she parks for work and drove/dropped her off in front of her work place. During the drive I ask the usual "How was your morning?" and "Did you sleep OK?" and she told me. I then brought up the idea of inviting her father out to lunch one day soon. My W did not necessarily pay much attention to why I thought it was a great idea but did agree it is something that we should do.

I dropped my W off and as she exited the vehicle I said "Have a good day" and she said "OK" and I said "bye" and she said nothing.

When my W returned home from work I said "Hi" and she said nothing in return. I had lunch cooking already and I made two seperate plate for the both of us. I sat her plate on the table and she proceeded to eat without hesitation, somewhere in there she softly said "Thank you" and I told her "Your welcome" in a pleasent tone.

I spoke of how nice of a day it is outside and asked if she wanted to do anything today. My W shrugged her shoulders. So I did pursue that any more.

Later wanted to go visited the burial site of her aunt and uncle and I said that is was a great idea. My W was in the process of getting ready and as I was walking out one room she came out another and instantly covered up exposed parts of her body (not the parts you may think). I turned away and said sorry. My W then asked for me to grab something hanging in the closet only it was not there and so she got upset with me briefly because it "should be there" as if I was being dishonest.

During our car ride we had some good conversations and at times she was cold and brief with me. Overall we got along well, NO arguments and no negative talk, we spoke as if we were friends. There was some reflecting on the past which was accepted pretty well.

The day went well. At times W still distant and nowhere near her OLD SELF but there were shades of her old self at times.

I gave a few compliments but nothing over the top. Simply saying what she was wearing looks great, it is a nice color on you... I can't say there was an adverse response but she also did not say "thank you" or smile like she use to in the past.

So in summary:
- Good conversations
- Still not saying "Hi" or "Bye"
- Still uncomfortable around me
- Has short fuse toward me
- Is more open about conversations she has at work (a sign she feels comfortable talking to me about those events)

There was a lot of agreeing with her and validating her feelings toward things. I would show my interest in what she had to say by listening, looking her in the eyes when I could (I was driving), repeat words she used and smile as often as I could.