*phew* I saw the angry face on Jeff's thread and I thought I'd said something bad...so I followed you to here and now it ALL makes sense.
I'm going to have to agree with Jeff - sometimes men just need a more detailed map, they're rubbish at nuances (not to tar all with the same brush of course)
I had a similar experience - turned out he was actually not as available as he'd made out so I guess I was lucky that we never did go out again.
Hope he gets back to you about meeting up...if not, he's entitled to a generous lashing of frost!
Thanks....after a couple years of paddling the canoe by myself and going in circles, I jumped out and swam to shore. Now he appears to just be drifting without a paddle!
My C appointment this afternoon went well. She thinks I am growing immensely and finds it highly predictable that exH is texting, emailing etc more frequently now. She said he wants to try and make sure I am still 'there' and 'available'...not that he wants me back but he doesn't want me 'gone' if that makes sense...
And yep I am moving on. But apparently R cannot handle my awesomeness in person....am I really that intimidating? Must be the Sue Sylvester in me...
Thanks....after a couple years of paddling the canoe by myself and going in circles, I jumped out and swam to shore. Now he appears to just be drifting without a paddle!
My C appointment this afternoon went well. She thinks I am growing immensely and finds it highly predictable that exH is texting, emailing etc more frequently now. She said he wants to try and make sure I am still 'there' and 'available'...not that he wants me back but he doesn't want me 'gone' if that makes sense...
And yep I am moving on. But apparently R cannot handle my awesomeness in person....am I really that intimidating? Must be the Sue Sylvester in me...
Who is "R", you'll be fine. None of us have times for games.
*phew* I saw the angry face on Jeff's thread and I thought I'd said something bad...so I followed you to here and now it ALL makes sense.
I'm going to have to agree with Jeff - sometimes men just need a more detailed map, they're rubbish at nuances (not to tar all with the same brush of course)
I had a similar experience - turned out he was actually not as available as he'd made out so I guess I was lucky that we never did go out again.
Hope he gets back to you about meeting up...if not, he's entitled to a generous lashing of frost!
*hugs*
Re: A detailed map
Actual text sent to R from me?
"Just a tip--for anything to move beyond thought that would require a date..." (this was in the midst of our flirty texting and him saying he was preoccupied w/thoughts of me)
And at the end of our 40+ text exchanges..."Let me know the plan for 2morrow", to which he replied "Ok good night"
DLS--R is a guy I work with on an extracurricular activity (speech) at school. We went to high school together. We have spent a lot of time together working on speech stuff, then went out one Saturday just for fun and have been texting/talking since then...
xH (Dan)is not a viable candidate for my company right now. Due to the fact that he has not shown true remorse nor growth after cheating on me with at least 3 different women during our marriage, the last being a 2 1/2 year affair which may or may not be ongoing...
DLS--R is a guy I work with on an extracurricular activity (speech) at school. We went to high school together. We have spent a lot of time together working on speech stuff, then went out one Saturday just for fun and have been texting/talking since then...
xH (Dan)is not a viable candidate for my company right now. Due to the fact that he has not shown true remorse nor growth after cheating on me with at least 3 different women during our marriage, the last being a 2 1/2 year affair which may or may not be ongoing...
And let me guess, Dan has been a "drag" off your life in other ways and does not show that he's "with" you. Yeah, its obvious. Get you a "good one" and never look back. Lifes too short.
hmmm you're not wrong...maybe his version needs updating or isn't linking up with the right satellite. The analogies could go on forever but you've given him clear instructions...it's time for this boy to play ball and match his walk to his talk. If not, it's possible he should just walk on by?
Yeah I am not sure, we aren't exactly a couple so it isn't a huge deal. But it does tell me at the very least that he sucks at communication (which is ironic since he was a Lit/Communications major...I mean he coaches KIDS on communicating every day!!)....
Maybe this is why he is still single?
Part of me wanted to text and say something because being passive is SOOOO the old BBJ way...sitting and stewing and playing mind reader. But I wasn't sure the best way to say, "Um...thought we were going out tonight?" without sounding like I was whiny or bitchy or possessive/stalker chick. Cause I am not...
OK time for bed. Need to start logging a good 7 hours a night or I will fall apart...
