Do NOT bite off more than you can chew right now. Focus on immediate functionality and comfort for the next year now. Don't spend months resolving and reopening childhood stuff now. I believe NOW is the time to compartmentalize. I'm serious. You don't want to dig up stuff and have it unburied while you're going through this.
Thanks for this advice rr. I think you have a point...there's a Pandora's box there and I need to handle with care.
I'm not planning to follow the advice to initiate a temperature-taking talk with H right now. Although I frequently get very strong urges to take action of some kind to get out of limbo and out of the passive role that I seem to be in. I can almost imagine myself following gucci's advice to lay it all on the line...but I don't know if I can or want to.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
