Keep on going

[brknheart]

I havent posted in awhile. Tomorrow is the day the judge signs the papers and my D is final. Its been a long journey and I still have more to go. Ive been GALing a lot, sometimes I feel to much (dont want to be alone at home). I still get curious on whats going on with my STBXW, the "friends" I left behind, and the city. I told myself after tomorrow, no more being curious. Ive been having fun, doing things ive never done before, meeting new people, etc. Wish I could control my dreams, dreamed about her the other night and the next day was gloomy. I met someone a couple weeks ago, thought about asking her out but Im not sure if im ready to play "dating game" again. As I type this it brings back memories of last year when I started reading DB and how much hope/commitment I had to try and save my M. Even though it didnt help save my M, I hope that it helps to save others. Im not bitter about M despite what Ive gone through. I liked being M. Enough of my rambling, just wanted to say hi.

[Ness]

*hugs for now*

that's all...baby steps ok

[cat03]

if you ar e not sure about dating, don't, do yourself and the girl a favor, i wouldnt' want to go out with a guy who still had issues. You'll know you are ready when you don't think you need anyone

[ClingingToHope]

BKNHRT, I wouldn't close any doors in your life. If the opportunity arises, ask her out. Who knows when something good is going to happen to you.

Keep us posted. I'm a couple of months behind and I'm curious as to how your brain changes once the process is over.

[Gardener]

brknheart,
Sorry to her your D is final. Sorry the X still rents space in your head whether conscious (wondering) or unconscious (dreaming). It takes time. For me the dreaming took longer to abate than the day-to-day curiosity.

I met someone a couple weeks ago, thought about asking her out but Im not sure if im ready to play "dating game" again.

Then you're probably not.

I'm a couple of months behind and I'm curious as to how your brain changes once the process is over.

Not to be blunt, CTH, but the process isn't over when the papers are signed and the D is final. Not by a long shot.

if you are not sure about dating, don't, do yourself and the girl a favor

Excellent point, cat. There's another person, heart, and feelings to be considered when one isn't sure if one is ready. And this:

You'll know you are ready when you don't think you need anyone.

is the definitive word on dating again. Just perfect.

You're still in a rough period, brknheart. In many ways tougher than your life sitch before the divorce. Give yourself time. Lots of it. For everything.