Quote: She intellectually understands that it is not abnormal for me to have a sex drive, but feels it is somehow degrading for her to have to partake in any sexual activity at all because she has no interest.
We seem to be mainly HD people here - perhaps HDs are the people who feel the need to talk about the issue the most? At any rate, even as a HD, when my wife said something like this, it made sense to me. Imagine what it would be like if you had no desire at all, no response, and someone wanted to have sex with your body anyway. Yuck!
On the other hand, I hate it when having sex becomes an all-or-nothing test of whether we can do it. The last time we had such a test was 6 years ago. We tried it and it didn't work. That seemed to settle the issue for her. I had to become very insistent to reopen the issue this year. We're talking about the issue again now, and she's trying psychotherapy (yet again...). I'm hoping we can figure out something constructive to do before the door closes again...
