FM...not sure about the 3 mo thing and I know you have read a lot of sitches on here so you know that too! I agree with gardener too! Also, I think OP is right...you don't want H to feel pressured!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing