My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[awest1217]

Don't ever contact OW. Like was suggested if you want to write down your feelings, do so and then shred it because talking to OW will only make things worse. You are giving her control over you when you do this. It is best to stay as far away from her as possible.

Before DBing, I did contact OW and sent her a text that said if she loved H half as much as I do then she and he should come out of hiding and tell everyone their love and be together. To stop hiding it and I would divorce H and they could be together forever. She immediately contacted H and said she wanted to stay away from him. He then got mad and they got closer because I was "crazy".

Since DBing, I did encounter OW one time, which was when I was at my lowest point, and it was right after I thought H had indicated that we were going to reconcile. I was wrong and they were as close as ever.

I know it seems counterintuitive, but you need to stay dark and if H says D, be ok to say if that is what you want then ok. I deserve better.