I am so sorry you are having to deal with them on top of everything else. Maybe you should just reply briefly to them. I would probably say something like,
I know that our situation isnt the way H or I planned on having the baby and this is hard on our families to watch. It is most especially for me right now because I have no say in the matter. My sole focus right now is of me and the little one and if that means being selfish and doing what is best for us, than that is just what I will be doing. Its not meant to offend H or push him out of the baby's life. I am willing to go to counseling with H to try and make sense of everything, but I also need to see H take responsibility for his actions and show me that he actively wants to play a fatherly role in my child's life, but most of all H needs to have respect for me as the mother of his child. And that includes having respect for my decisions as well. Pregnancy, child birth and the first few months after the child is born is a very trying time, and I am doing everything possible to enjoy my moment with my child.
Maybe too wordy, but let them see you are not pushing him out! HE WALKED OUT!!!!! and it also gives him the oppportunity to see that he can redeem himself if he wants to, and at the same time you are 100% entitled to be selfish and make decisions you deem fit for your baby! THAT IS A GOD GIVEN RIGHT WHEN YOU BECOME A MOTHER!
Dont let them get to you. and maybe its better H will not go into your flat. Clearly he has fears and his own issues, do not take them personal!!!! He has his own issue! You have a beautiful baby on the way!
