Originally Posted By: ClingingToHope
Does that make sense (incidentally, that's a favorite phrase of STBXW)?
Perfectly. What you're saying is DB 101: you have to do it for you, not for any hoped-for effect it may or may not have on W.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac